Why Christmas Music Can Be Hard for Autistic People
HOLIDAY MUSIC: FINDING THE JOY WITHOUT THE OVERWHELM
The holidays are full of music: carols in stores, festive playlists at home, school concerts, and jingling bells wherever you go. Music can be magical - evoking warmth, nostalgia, and excitement.
For autistic people, however, holiday music can be a double-edged sword. Loud, repetitive, or unexpected sounds can quickly become overwhelming, turning festive cheer into sensory overload. We believe music can be part of the holidays - if we approach it thoughtfully.
Why Holiday Music Can Be Overwhelming
Holiday music engages multiple senses and emotions, which can be intense:
Volume: Loud songs or multiple sources of music (stores, car radios, home speakers) can be startling.
Repetition: Carols often repeat the same melody or lyrics, which some people find irritating.
Unexpected sounds: Bells, jingles, and sudden changes in rhythm or tempo may trigger anxiety.
Crowded spaces: School concerts or community events combine music with crowds and bright lights, increasing sensory load.
Social expectations: Singing along, clapping, or performing can feel stressful for some people.
Even people who generally enjoy music may become anxious or fatigued in overstimulating environments.
Tips for Sensory-Friendly Holiday Music
Control the volume: Keep music at a comfortable level and allow them to use headphones if needed.
Offer choice: Let them decide whether to participate, listen, or move away from music.
Create a safe space: A quiet room or corner allows people to enjoy music on their terms.
Preview songs: Introduce new carols or holiday tunes gradually.
Pair with routine: Listen at predictable times - during baking, decorating, or quiet time - to reduce surprise.
Use alternative formats: Play recorded music instead of attending live performances if crowds and noise are overwhelming.
Enjoying Music in Ways That Work
Solo listening: Using headphones or a personal speaker.
Movement-based engagement: Dancing or swaying in a comfortable, private space.
Instrument exploration: Simple percussion or a xylophone can allow self-directed musical play.
Creative interpretation: Drawing, colouring, or building while listening to holiday songs.
Family participation: Singing or humming at home in a relaxed environment, without pressure.
Making Holiday Music Fun for Everyone
Holiday music doesn’t have to be a source of stress. By respecting sensory needs and providing options, people can experience joy, rhythm, and connection in ways that feel safe.
Some may love jingling bells or singing loudly, others may enjoy quiet listening from a cozy spot. Both are valid, meaningful ways to celebrate the season.
Music Is A Gift
But the way it’s experienced matters. With thoughtful planning, choice, and flexibility, holiday tunes can enhance the season instead of overwhelming it.
The goal isn’t a perfect carol or a concert-ready performance. It’s creating an environment where they can feel included, comfortable, and free to enjoy the sounds of the season on their own terms.
