Thanksgiving with Autism

Thanksgiving in Kawartha Lakes can be a mix of cozy traditions and overwhelming moments. The smells, the noise, the family gatherings - it’s a lot for anyone, and for autistic kids (and adults), it can be especially intense.

At ARK, we know holidays don’t always look like the picture-perfect scenes on greeting cards. And that’s okay. Here are some gentle ways to make Thanksgiving a little easier for autistic people and their families.

Routines Matter (Even on Holidays)

The holiday can throw off regular schedules - later bedtimes, new foods, different surroundings. Try keeping familiar routines in place where possible: favorite morning shows, a walk outside, or a consistent bedtime. Predictability brings calm.

Prepare with Visuals & Stories

Talk about what the day might look like. Who’s coming, what foods will be on the table, and where you’ll be. Visual schedules, pictures of relatives, or a simple “Thanksgiving story” can help set expectations.

Create a Quiet Retreat

Big family gatherings = lots of noise, smells, and chatter. Have a calm space ready - a bedroom, a cozy corner, even a spot in the car if needed. Headphones, fidgets, or a weighted blanket can make the retreat more comforting.

Food Flexibility is Key

Turkey and stuffing aren’t for everyone. If your child only wants chicken nuggets or plain bread, that’s fine. Letting them eat familiar foods reduces stress and makes the holiday more enjoyable for everyone.

Practice Gratitude in Your Own Way

Not every child will want to go around the table sharing what they’re thankful for. Maybe gratitude looks like drawing a picture, writing a list, or simply smiling at dessert. There’s no “right” way to give thanks.

Be Ready to Tag-Team

If you’re parenting, it can help to have a plan with your partner, family, or a trusted person: who stays at the table, who takes a break with your child, and how to swap if things get overwhelming.

Keep Expectations Gentle

Thanksgiving doesn’t need to be perfect. Maybe you leave early, maybe you stay home, maybe you host a quieter meal instead. What matters is that your family feels safe, included, and cared for.

Thanksgiving can be both joyful and challenging - and both feelings are valid. If your day doesn’t look like the ones on Instagram, you’re not doing it wrong. You’re doing what works for your family, and that’s worth celebrating. 💛

From all of us at ARK, we wish you a Thanksgiving filled with warmth, understanding, and a little extra grace.